The bar has been set high. After Andrew Huberman and Simon Sinek, world-leading experts in neuroscience and leadership, let me introduce you to Matthew Hussey, an expert on relationships and human connection.
Originally from England, now living in the USA, he has worked as a relationship coach for years, originally with men, now mostly with women. However, in the last few years, he has made a shift from lecturing people on dating topics only to a broader range of life topics, all related to relationships. And since we all are concerned with relationships (unless we live alone in a mountain cabin or cave) and their quality determines the quality of our lives, he has a lot to say to most of us. So you don't need to be seeking dating advice to learn from him.
Why should you listen to him? Because I say he is wonderful! Hehe, seriously! ☺ Matt's very bright and able to see things connected and explain things well without oversimplifying, esp. in his latest videos. (You better ignore the video titles on YouTube in general - they're almost always misleading, no matter who the speaker is.) Like everybody else, he has been evolving, so the recent content tends to be better and covers more than just dating. And not to forget - he's well-spoken so you can learn a great deal of vocabulary as well! Wink, wink ☺
Here are two tasters first, let's see what you think:
A short clip from a long interview with Lisa Bilyeu on the show Women of Impact, on our standards in relationships and the space we must give, even though we don't trust completely yet.
Another snippet from a longer interview, this time with Lisa's husband Tom Bilyeu. What do we give in our relationships? Do we give what the other desires, or rather something that it is just easy for us to give?
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If you liked Matt in those, I'm sure you'll appreciate hearing him in this full-length podcast episode from The Diary of a CEO, with Steven Bartlett.
In this interview, Matthew explains his concept of "emotional buttons". This is something I find very useful. It's his formula for getting back to a good feeling or a state of being. I've had on my noticeboard for a while two statements:
Action beats inaction.
Mood follows action.
The second piece of wisdom comes from him. You know how it is sometimes hard to do something, even though we have the time and we know it generally makes us feel great afterwards? In a way, it doesn't make sense. We should be motivated and yet we sometimes aren't. It was a relief to hear that even highly successful people like him struggle with it and tend to avoid the very activities that make them feel good. The strategy of noticing our emotional buttons can help us find motivation when temporarily we lack it.
Judge how good a chef you are based on what you can create out of the ingredients that were given to you. Comparison is detrimental as we all were given different ingredients.
There was a period a few years ago when I was listening to Matthew Hussey regularly, and I agree, he delivers valuable insights. Putting that Diary of a CEO interview in my to-watch queue. Thanks :)